Walk a Mile in my shoes sister!
Isn’t it easy to critique and criticize someone else?
It really doesn’t take any thought, love or care to critique someone. The funny thing is almost every time I have critiqued someone and then later had to walk in their shoes for just a moment, I understood why they struggled with what they were doing. It’s always easier from the sideline. It’s all about perspective. I can easily critique when I have no skin in the game. Matter of fact, it even makes me feel better for a moment when I can put them down and momentarily raise myself up.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t last and even worse, it becomes divisive, hateful, and hurts their future and ours. You see we can’t experience the fullness of what God has for us with unconfessed sin in our lives. And that’s just what gossip and unwholesome critique is… sin.
Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
If you care for the person, go to them in private and share your issue with them with scripture (remember if you don’t have a scriptural reference then you don’t have a real issue). And let God work to help make you part of the solution (do you care enough to really be a part of the solution?) You may be surprised that the person didn’t realize they were even doing that. Or you might walk a mile in their shoes and realize that it’s a little harder to discern than what you thought. Most things aren’t usually as cut and dry as they may seem on the outside. Who knows in the midst of this, you may grow as well. And then God can be lifted high and glorified. What if it’s more about your growth than theirs?
Drop the mic.
Let’s be women of integrity today that care for each other and each others’ growth. In the process, I know God will grow us all.
Ephesians 4:31-32 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.