“I’m a Control Freak.”

I’m a control freak.

There, I said it.
Even saying that, makes me want to control how you will receive it.

Ugh. Deep exhausting sigh. Disgusted.
It is what it is.

I want to control anything and everything. From our daily family activities, to work, to the way the waitress greets us, to the way the clothes get washed, to the toilet paper rolls getting put on the dispenser right (am I the only one that actually puts the paper roll on the dispenser?), or even how people perceive me or my family. I have always wanted control. There have been times over the years, I thought I had it. I had the world by the tail, and the world would see it as I wanted them to … or else. Only to later realize the truth – I was never really in control. It was an illusion. An illusion where the enemy keeps us trapped. There is only One who truly has control, and He’s not giving it up any time soon.

But oh our enemy makes the illusion of control so attractive. He wraps it in gorgeous
wrapping paper with a beautiful bow. If I just do it this way, work harder, be smarter, be more attractive, be more assertive, and worry about it a while, then …. then I will have control. Sounds silly doesn’t it? But boy do I fall into it every single time. Always telling myself that this time it will be different.

The hard truth is women like to control. We do. It makes us feel better. It’s easy for us. Not effective, but surely second nature.

Here’s the truth, wouldn’t we rather be effective than controlling?

When I get overwhelmed with trying to control (literally a daily battle), I’m brought back to the story Jesus tells in John 15. The story of the grapevine.

In John 15:5, Jesus says “I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who remain in Me and I in them will produce much fruit. For apart from Me you can do nothing.”

So He is the vine and I am the branch. What is a branch’s job?


Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me. John 15:4

My job is to remain in Him. In turn, He will feed me and will produce fruit through me. My job is not to produce (or control things). It is His job to produce the fruit. I need just to remain.

So, take a break sister from your controlling and forcing everybody and everything today. Aren’t you exhausted? Take some time to remain in Him. How do you do that? Remaining is studying His Word, praying without ceasing, serving and loving others, and giving generously. His job is to produce the fruit. And His promise we can rely on.

I remain = He produces fruit.
This promise of God = freedom.

“For the Lord is the Spirit, and wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” 2 Corinthians 3:17

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